When your partner comes home with a problem, often your first impulse is to make suggestions to fix the problem. You tend to interrupt and show your knowledge. That may feel like you're helping but here's the best way to help: 1. Listen, really listen and look at their face to see what they are really feeling. 2. When they [...]
Keeping love alive
Andy: Linda! I just asked you to pick up some bagels while you were at the store. I didn't ask you to reconstruct the universe! For years, Linda listened to Andy's anger. He was angry at home and angry at work. Andy would embarrass her by arguing with their friends over everything from politics to baseball scores. She constantly told [...]
These are difficult times. Here's a simple path to think about the situation facing you. Use the Three A's: 1. Appraise the situation. What is most bothering you? 2. Accept what you can't change but think about what changes are possible. 3. Adjust. What new actions can you try. Listen to your partner and truly get into their feelings. Ask [...]
The short answer is you can not! But you can come to joint decision that pleases you both. Here's how: If you begin with the premise that there is a “winner” and a “loser," both of you will lose. Resentment permeates the relationship unless a joint decision is developed. To develop a joint decision requires eliminating these four argumentative methods: [...]
When you and your love partner are open with each other, you both will feel safer with less anxiety. However, timing is very important. To tell too much too soon can hurt your relationship. But if you wait too long -- which is more common -- you will become stressed worrying about being "found out." Your partner will find it [...]
There are major differences between young love and mature love -- both advantages and disadvantages.
We can apply this axiom to our adult lives. Our relationship will flourish if we ...
Is 50 Shades of Grey harmful to society? You bet it is! Here's why.
Little things mean a lot -- and a note like this can improve your relationship enormously. Try a note today!
